"We love because He loved us first." -1 John 4:19
From the moment we are born we experience an abundant number of different kind of 'loves'. We experience the protecting love of our parents, minutes after we come into this world. We experience love in our first friendships, when we make a lot of mistakes learning how hard it is to show love. Love is a complex thing- we'll never be able to fully understand it. We'll never be able to fully grasp the concept of love because God is love. He loves us more than any human is ever capable of loving, and we will never be able to be Him, so we will never completely understand: LOVE.
Valentine's Day. Every girl knows when this day is looming closer and closer. For all you boys who don't pay attention, I'll help you out: Valentine's Day is February 14th. Maybe, you're the girl who's happily in a committed relationship and you know he's planning something special. Or the girl who's happily single going to have a G.N.O with your best friends. But, I know deep down for all of us single ladies (I feel you ;)) it can be really hard to find contentment in being single- especially with Valentine's Day looming closer and closer. This holiday shoving sappy romantic merchandise down our throats can make us question if there ever really will be a Prince Charming for us.
For all you single ladies, I just want to share my heart with you and let you know you're not alone this Valentine's Day. Only a short while ago, I was the boy-crazy girl. I was that girl who always had a crush, thought constantly about romance, read romance novels, watched chick-flicks, and dreamed about a guy to sweep me off my feet. What did that give me? It gave me un-realistic dreams that always set my expectations too high and lead to disappointment when life didn't measure up. It meant many late nights of crying wondering why I wasn't good enough for any of the boys. All it lead to was a bitter heart and a discontent girl. What has changed since then? Me finding contentment in where I am right now and not wanting to settle for anything but God's best.
First off, no girl needs a date on Valentine's Date. Think about all of the pro's about not having a date:
- You don't have to dress up (I mean who really wants to put in all of that effort to do their hair and makeup again on a Tuesday night).
- ME time: have a little bit of in-home pampering. Buy a face mask or two, paint your nails, take a hot bath, and just RELAX.
- You can do whatever you want. No trying to make plans with some guy and feel disappointed when the plans don't go exactly the way you imagined
- You can make money babysitting. Lot's of married couples want a night out and will gladly pay for you to entertain their kids
This is one of the hardest things I've had to do. I had to realize I am worth it. I am worth enough to not have to settle for a boy who teased me during the day and then make me smile at night. I am worth a guy who would genuinely try to win my heart and protect me. I am valuable and I shouldn't have to settle for a jerk. While it's so easy to feel really insecure about yourself when all of your friends are giddy and excited over there boyfriends, and it seems like everywhere you turn you see a couple in the hallway, I want to remind you that you are worth it. God designed us all specially and uniquely and he wants the best for us- but in His timing.
There was this boy. I didn't like him. He was mean to me. He teased me constantly, pointed me out in a crowd, made fun of how I talk, and made me feel more and more insecure. I began to accept this when my friends told me he liked me and was "for sure going to ask me to homecoming". He never did. He may have singled me out a lot and given me lots of attention, but it took me months to realize it was negative attention. I was giving this jerk the time of day when all he wanted was a reaction out of me. I was so desperate for a guy that I was willing to settle for that. Don't settle for a guy like that! You are worth so much more than that. Make yourself a promise that you will hold true to this standard to wait for a guy who's worth it.
You've seen these two types of girls. You've seen the girl who's being blind to a certain guy's bad behavior and treatment, but she's so scared of loosing him that she doesn't see it. You've also seen the girl who cries for days when he breaks her heart because he doesn't want her anymore. Don't let yourself be either of those girls. You don't want that pain or heartache. Guard your heart and don't let just any boy take it.
When I'm feeling down about being single or just a little discouraged I'll sit down and make a list of all the joys of my life right now. Sometime's we become so enthusiastic and hopeful about the future that we forget to live for right now. And right now, I am single. Right now: I'm focusing on school, I'm focusing on making my friendships stronger, I'm focusing on preparing myself to be out on my own (learning to cook and clean), I'm focusing in finding grace and patience in everyday life, I'm focusing on my relationship with the Lord and encouraging others to follow him, and I'm living my life for right now.
I'm not going to lie- sometimes I look at other couples and think about how much happier I would be if I was in a relationship, but the truth is, if you're not content now, you're not going to be content if you were with someone. Finding contentment is a daily struggle but it is one that makes you happier and appreciate today rather than tomorrow.
I encourage all of you to realize how blessed you are right now. It's inevitable that we're going to feel down about not having a guy and compare ourselves to the girls that do. Love is such a precious thing and just because it's Valentine's Day doesn't mean it's the right time for you to fall in love. You'll find your prince charming someday. This Valentine's Day continue to spread love! Call a relative and remind them that you love them. Hug you friends and show your appreciation for your parents. Try to spread love to all this Valentine's Day!
Note: I recommend greatly to read Before you Meet Prince Charming by Sarah Malloy. It completely changed my life and has helped bring me to this place I'm in right now in my life.
From the moment we are born we experience an abundant number of different kind of 'loves'. We experience the protecting love of our parents, minutes after we come into this world. We experience love in our first friendships, when we make a lot of mistakes learning how hard it is to show love. Love is a complex thing- we'll never be able to fully understand it. We'll never be able to fully grasp the concept of love because God is love. He loves us more than any human is ever capable of loving, and we will never be able to be Him, so we will never completely understand: LOVE.
Valentine's Day. Every girl knows when this day is looming closer and closer. For all you boys who don't pay attention, I'll help you out: Valentine's Day is February 14th. Maybe, you're the girl who's happily in a committed relationship and you know he's planning something special. Or the girl who's happily single going to have a G.N.O with your best friends. But, I know deep down for all of us single ladies (I feel you ;)) it can be really hard to find contentment in being single- especially with Valentine's Day looming closer and closer. This holiday shoving sappy romantic merchandise down our throats can make us question if there ever really will be a Prince Charming for us.
For all you single ladies, I just want to share my heart with you and let you know you're not alone this Valentine's Day. Only a short while ago, I was the boy-crazy girl. I was that girl who always had a crush, thought constantly about romance, read romance novels, watched chick-flicks, and dreamed about a guy to sweep me off my feet. What did that give me? It gave me un-realistic dreams that always set my expectations too high and lead to disappointment when life didn't measure up. It meant many late nights of crying wondering why I wasn't good enough for any of the boys. All it lead to was a bitter heart and a discontent girl. What has changed since then? Me finding contentment in where I am right now and not wanting to settle for anything but God's best.
First off, no girl needs a date on Valentine's Date. Think about all of the pro's about not having a date:
- You don't have to dress up (I mean who really wants to put in all of that effort to do their hair and makeup again on a Tuesday night).
- ME time: have a little bit of in-home pampering. Buy a face mask or two, paint your nails, take a hot bath, and just RELAX.
- You can do whatever you want. No trying to make plans with some guy and feel disappointed when the plans don't go exactly the way you imagined
- You can make money babysitting. Lot's of married couples want a night out and will gladly pay for you to entertain their kids
This is one of the hardest things I've had to do. I had to realize I am worth it. I am worth enough to not have to settle for a boy who teased me during the day and then make me smile at night. I am worth a guy who would genuinely try to win my heart and protect me. I am valuable and I shouldn't have to settle for a jerk. While it's so easy to feel really insecure about yourself when all of your friends are giddy and excited over there boyfriends, and it seems like everywhere you turn you see a couple in the hallway, I want to remind you that you are worth it. God designed us all specially and uniquely and he wants the best for us- but in His timing.
There was this boy. I didn't like him. He was mean to me. He teased me constantly, pointed me out in a crowd, made fun of how I talk, and made me feel more and more insecure. I began to accept this when my friends told me he liked me and was "for sure going to ask me to homecoming". He never did. He may have singled me out a lot and given me lots of attention, but it took me months to realize it was negative attention. I was giving this jerk the time of day when all he wanted was a reaction out of me. I was so desperate for a guy that I was willing to settle for that. Don't settle for a guy like that! You are worth so much more than that. Make yourself a promise that you will hold true to this standard to wait for a guy who's worth it.
You've seen these two types of girls. You've seen the girl who's being blind to a certain guy's bad behavior and treatment, but she's so scared of loosing him that she doesn't see it. You've also seen the girl who cries for days when he breaks her heart because he doesn't want her anymore. Don't let yourself be either of those girls. You don't want that pain or heartache. Guard your heart and don't let just any boy take it.
When I'm feeling down about being single or just a little discouraged I'll sit down and make a list of all the joys of my life right now. Sometime's we become so enthusiastic and hopeful about the future that we forget to live for right now. And right now, I am single. Right now: I'm focusing on school, I'm focusing on making my friendships stronger, I'm focusing on preparing myself to be out on my own (learning to cook and clean), I'm focusing in finding grace and patience in everyday life, I'm focusing on my relationship with the Lord and encouraging others to follow him, and I'm living my life for right now.
I'm not going to lie- sometimes I look at other couples and think about how much happier I would be if I was in a relationship, but the truth is, if you're not content now, you're not going to be content if you were with someone. Finding contentment is a daily struggle but it is one that makes you happier and appreciate today rather than tomorrow.
I encourage all of you to realize how blessed you are right now. It's inevitable that we're going to feel down about not having a guy and compare ourselves to the girls that do. Love is such a precious thing and just because it's Valentine's Day doesn't mean it's the right time for you to fall in love. You'll find your prince charming someday. This Valentine's Day continue to spread love! Call a relative and remind them that you love them. Hug you friends and show your appreciation for your parents. Try to spread love to all this Valentine's Day!
Note: I recommend greatly to read Before you Meet Prince Charming by Sarah Malloy. It completely changed my life and has helped bring me to this place I'm in right now in my life.
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