Since Valentine's Day just happened, and my last post was about relationships as well, I thought I'd continue with more of my thoughts when it comes to dating right now.
I was reading a book (yes, I do a lot of reading) and I read this sentence: There are two types of boys: Boys girls date and boys girls marry. After reading those words, I just reflected and mediated on the truth of them. So many times I have heard young girls say, and I, myself, have even said to others, "Well, it's not like you're gonna marry him." 99% of relationships in junior high and high school aren't going to last after graduation and there won't be a wedding. There are many reasons for this: your maturity changes, your goals change, your personality changes, you just change a lot during that period of time. You're not going to be the same person you were when you were 12 when you're 32. That in mind, why are there so many serious relationships between people so young?
It's really easy to fall for a guy. He can do something mean 85% of the time, but that 15% when he compliments you or smiles at you in the hallway can make you forget about all the cruel things he said and did. Every girl can relate when they think about the man they hope to marry one day. You have high hopes and dreams about the kind of person he will be, and you look forward to spending the rest of your life with this person you're hoping to meet one day. Now think about right now. Think about that special boy in your life. Maybe he's just a really close friend, your boyfriend, or crush. Is he the kind of guy you hope to marry one day?
Boys Girls Date:
- Ask you to "hang out". No specific goals or purpose, just looking for a way to spend time with you.
- You talk about "the weather". Not literally, but you're conversations are more surfaced and you never open up the true desires of your heart
- The goal of the relationship is not marriage, kids (if wanted), and a life being spent together
- Is a person you enjoy spending time with because of his personality. In a healthy and strong relationship, his personality should compliment yours and balance your relationship.
- Avoids areas of conflict. That touchy subject about your beliefs is completely avoided because that would tarnish your relationship.
- No security in the relationship. While your in school (middle school, high school, or college), graduation will often lead you two on different paths and while you may not acknowledge it right now, deep in your heart you have the fear that this will end.
- Haven't grown and matured into all that God has designed them to be- and you haven't either. When you're 15, you might be old enough to "fall in love" but you're not ready for the kind of love marriage requires.
- Aren't financially stable. It's great to work at McDonalds' for a summer in high school, but it's not the same as working a nine to five job.
- Don't know exactly what they want out of life. We never have what we want completely figured.
Boys Girls Marry:
- Have a strong core values, beliefs, and convictions. These things also match up with yours. You see eye to eye on the beliefs of your hearts.
- Makes your relationship a priority. He makes special plans for the two of you on a random Wednesday night, just because he cares about you.
- Shares his heart with you- his hopes, dreams, secrets, etc. And you do the same.
- When conflict occurs he or you imitates a conversation to discuss and take it on together as a team.
- His goals for the relationship are marriage, kids (if wanted), and a life being spent together.
- He is matured and knows himself well enough to take on the rest of his life with a partner. He has learned important life lessons that have prepared him to be a husband.
- Financially stable. He has a consistent pay check that is able to support him and a future family. He's smart with his money and knows how to save and be thrifty.
- You are confident that he is committed to you and he will never leave you, no matter what life throws at you.
- He is better than you could ever imagine. That man you've asked God for your entire life, is finally in front of you and you can't imagine a partner and a man better than him.
I encourage you all to think about these things the next time you find that special someone on your mind. Don't you think you could save yourself a lot of heartbreak, by guarding your heart for a boy you would marry? Waiting for the best has its benefits. Everyone is different, and no love story or couple is the same. Each story is unique.
I was reading a book (yes, I do a lot of reading) and I read this sentence: There are two types of boys: Boys girls date and boys girls marry. After reading those words, I just reflected and mediated on the truth of them. So many times I have heard young girls say, and I, myself, have even said to others, "Well, it's not like you're gonna marry him." 99% of relationships in junior high and high school aren't going to last after graduation and there won't be a wedding. There are many reasons for this: your maturity changes, your goals change, your personality changes, you just change a lot during that period of time. You're not going to be the same person you were when you were 12 when you're 32. That in mind, why are there so many serious relationships between people so young?
It's really easy to fall for a guy. He can do something mean 85% of the time, but that 15% when he compliments you or smiles at you in the hallway can make you forget about all the cruel things he said and did. Every girl can relate when they think about the man they hope to marry one day. You have high hopes and dreams about the kind of person he will be, and you look forward to spending the rest of your life with this person you're hoping to meet one day. Now think about right now. Think about that special boy in your life. Maybe he's just a really close friend, your boyfriend, or crush. Is he the kind of guy you hope to marry one day?
Boys Girls Date:
- Ask you to "hang out". No specific goals or purpose, just looking for a way to spend time with you.
- You talk about "the weather". Not literally, but you're conversations are more surfaced and you never open up the true desires of your heart
- The goal of the relationship is not marriage, kids (if wanted), and a life being spent together
- Is a person you enjoy spending time with because of his personality. In a healthy and strong relationship, his personality should compliment yours and balance your relationship.
- Avoids areas of conflict. That touchy subject about your beliefs is completely avoided because that would tarnish your relationship.
- No security in the relationship. While your in school (middle school, high school, or college), graduation will often lead you two on different paths and while you may not acknowledge it right now, deep in your heart you have the fear that this will end.
- Haven't grown and matured into all that God has designed them to be- and you haven't either. When you're 15, you might be old enough to "fall in love" but you're not ready for the kind of love marriage requires.
- Aren't financially stable. It's great to work at McDonalds' for a summer in high school, but it's not the same as working a nine to five job.
- Don't know exactly what they want out of life. We never have what we want completely figured.
Boys Girls Marry:
- Have a strong core values, beliefs, and convictions. These things also match up with yours. You see eye to eye on the beliefs of your hearts.
- Makes your relationship a priority. He makes special plans for the two of you on a random Wednesday night, just because he cares about you.
- Shares his heart with you- his hopes, dreams, secrets, etc. And you do the same.
- When conflict occurs he or you imitates a conversation to discuss and take it on together as a team.
- His goals for the relationship are marriage, kids (if wanted), and a life being spent together.
- He is matured and knows himself well enough to take on the rest of his life with a partner. He has learned important life lessons that have prepared him to be a husband.
- Financially stable. He has a consistent pay check that is able to support him and a future family. He's smart with his money and knows how to save and be thrifty.
- You are confident that he is committed to you and he will never leave you, no matter what life throws at you.
- He is better than you could ever imagine. That man you've asked God for your entire life, is finally in front of you and you can't imagine a partner and a man better than him.
I encourage you all to think about these things the next time you find that special someone on your mind. Don't you think you could save yourself a lot of heartbreak, by guarding your heart for a boy you would marry? Waiting for the best has its benefits. Everyone is different, and no love story or couple is the same. Each story is unique.
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