Cuffing season: the time of year when the weather changes and gets all chilly and everyone is feeling snuggly and cozy and decides that this is the perfect time to dive into a relationship.
Before I get into my thoughts and message I want to make one thing clear: I am not against relationships. I am not bitter for being single, I will always cheer the loudest for relationships, and I am a of course a hopeless romantic. That is me. This is my current place in life and I am grateful for it, for I know God is teaching me so much during this time. But to all of you ladies scrolling through Instagram seeing picture after picture of couples cozy by the fire, Christmas Eve engagements, and snow filled adventures with that someone special and a puppy.... ladies I am with ya.
No one ever likes to feel left out and often the holidays can feel like one big billboard add screaming who is in a relationship and who is not. It sucks to feel like you're the nth wheel and not be able to buy matching pajamas (I mean that's all I want lol). If you haven't heard some one tell you this before or have never actually believed it I am going to say it again: You do not need a boy. Plain simple truth right there. You do need Jesus. Whether you believe me or not, you will not be fulfilled by a guy. You will not satisfy your desire to be loved through a man.
These are my simple, messy, not perfectly worded prayers for women this holiday season. They are not pretty, they are not perfect, but they are real. They are truly the prayers from the bottom of my heart. I pray every single one of you....
Before I get into my thoughts and message I want to make one thing clear: I am not against relationships. I am not bitter for being single, I will always cheer the loudest for relationships, and I am a of course a hopeless romantic. That is me. This is my current place in life and I am grateful for it, for I know God is teaching me so much during this time. But to all of you ladies scrolling through Instagram seeing picture after picture of couples cozy by the fire, Christmas Eve engagements, and snow filled adventures with that someone special and a puppy.... ladies I am with ya.
No one ever likes to feel left out and often the holidays can feel like one big billboard add screaming who is in a relationship and who is not. It sucks to feel like you're the nth wheel and not be able to buy matching pajamas (I mean that's all I want lol). If you haven't heard some one tell you this before or have never actually believed it I am going to say it again: You do not need a boy. Plain simple truth right there. You do need Jesus. Whether you believe me or not, you will not be fulfilled by a guy. You will not satisfy your desire to be loved through a man.
These are my simple, messy, not perfectly worded prayers for women this holiday season. They are not pretty, they are not perfect, but they are real. They are truly the prayers from the bottom of my heart. I pray every single one of you....
- Turn back to your first love. I'm not talking your first crush in eighth grade, I'm talking our God. He is the author of love and I promise he writes better love stories than Nicholas Sparks. He is capable of loving you more than anyone on this earth can. When you're not feeling loved turn to Him, not the world.
- God is your first love but that doesn't mean you shouldn't love others fiercely. This is the perfect time of year to show your gratitude for those around you whom you love and to be a blessing to others by being an extension of God's love. Send a thoughtful card to a relative, bring a sweet treat to a neighbor, or simply just have a heart to heart with someone. Take the opportunity to love on others and I promise you will feel love too.
- Serve with a love from Christ. Turn to those who might not have somewhere to go for the holidays, for those who might not even have a meal. If anything this will give you perspective and provoke feelings of gratitude for all that you have. Remember God uses seasons of singleness for a purpose, so make the effort to make a difference and use this time wisely.
- That you would remember Christmas Eve is more than just engagement rings. Don't get me wrong, what a precious time to propose and start to head towards marriage if that's your life's stage currently, but remember Christmas Eve should be a time of reflection for us, knowing God sent Our Savior for us. Re-reading the gospels telling the story of Jesus' birth will bring us great joy.
- Pray for those in relationships. Be a cheerleader! Get excited when someone you love is experiencing joy! Whether it's their first love or the couple that's been together for 40 years, find joy in what God helped to bring together. These are precious people you love and pray that God would bless them.
- Pray for yourself. Pray for your future spouse. Pray for a love one day that will reflect the love of Christ.
Whether or not you've experienced cuffing season in full swing or not, there are always going to be time where you feel left out or not a part of something. Lean on community and lean on Jesus. There is power in praying for others and there is always encouragement in showing love. Just channel your inner southern grandma and remind yourself, "Darling its gonna all be okay".
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